Learning to Say “No”

The first step towards getting what you want, is to stop accepting the shit you don’t want. But that’s easier said than done, I know. In order to be efficient, I need to make sure I’m doing the right thing, at the right time, in the right way (I learned that in a leadership course at work). I need to get rid of all actions (and people) in my life that don’t add value. While I want to be “loved by all” I don’t have the space in my heart to help everyone, do everything or be everywhere. I’ve learned the hard way to say “no” to shit that can potentially fuck up my life, no matter the “time we put in” or whatever sob story I’m given. I have the right to control my life; I have the right to say “no”.

What’s your dream?


Ideally, I would like to start my days by moving when I want to move. Unfortunately for my boss, I do that now. I still do everything I need to so – sometimes more – but I hate to be so easily accessible to people. The more you do to prove your worth, without expecting anything in return, the more they get used to it. They think they’ve earned it. I want to find a way to make each of my actions profitable. Sounds far-fetched? Entitled, maybe? Zuckerberg became a billionaire at age 23. I just feel like thinking any other way will cost me and… I have bills,  I know you know. I suppose I’ll always have bills and hopefully more bills (because I need a bigger place) but I want to make enough to make my bills go away then combat my greed and help the needy. 

Is too much honesty a mistake?

Written by: Ella

 The problem with writing a blog is that… people on here know me. But how many venues does a person truly have to be who they are? And at what point do you just stop giving a fuck about what people think and say so that you can being to be the real you? Have you met the real you? Like the real uncensored fuck-what-the-world-says you? I’m just getting to know the real me and really it’s all due to this blog.